每日一翻：Big Parental Control May Stunt Kid Assertiveness

Domineering parents may keep kids under their thumb to try to protect the kids from the perils of peer pressure. But this approach may backfire and actually make kids more susceptible to going with the crowd. So finds a study in the journal Child Development. [Barbara A. Oudekerk et al, The Cascading Development of Autonomy and Relatedness From Adolescence to Adulthood]

专横的父母喜欢把孩子捧在手里那样管教孩子，害怕孩子受到一点来自同龄人的压力。但是实际上这样或许会适得其反，会导致孩子在群体生活中更脆弱。这是《儿童发展》期刊上发表的研究。

Psychologists got baseline information through interviews with 184 13-year-olds. The researchers learned about their parents’ control tactics—such as using guilt to manipulate behavior—and watched how the kids dealt with a difference of opinion or argument with a friend.

心理学家通过调查184名13岁儿童而得到了基准信息。科学家们研究了他们父母管教孩子的策略，比如通过内疚控制他们的行为，然后看孩子们如何处理和朋友观点不统一的情况。

Years passed. Then the researchers followed up with the study participants when they were 18 and again when they reached 21. Of particular interest were interactions with a peer or romantic partner。

过了几年，科学家们分别在参与调查的孩子18岁和21岁时进行了跟进研究。比如对一起相处的同伴或恋人的特别兴趣。

The now young adults who’d had highly controlling parents were less able to stress their own viewpoints to a friend or partner in confident and productive ways. And the effects of that inability increased over time: poor relationship skills in an 18-year-old predicted further deficits at 21.

现在那些原来受到父母高度控制的年轻人无法向他们的朋友或同伴自信和有效地表达他们自己的观点。而且随着时间的推移越来越厉害：在18岁有很弱的社交能力预示着21岁更是如此。

Seems that resisting parental control may be how kids learn to assert themselves, an important skill for healthy future relationships.

似乎抵制家长管教或许应该会使孩子学会维护他们自己，这是一项使得他们将来有健康的人际关系很重要的能力。

—Daisy Yuhas